Hello, Webpage looks great. Looking for some advice.
Looking for guidance on how to best handle a child who does not have a male around with a group that is thin at volunteers. I’m a year in and to date have only had men volunteer to lead the Stockade group. I’m thinking not only of meetings but of weekend events as well.
I have a child who is not connected to his father and his grandfather had been attending with him but is no longer able to do so (busy with other things). The boy (10 yrs) can be a challenge to work with and the number of father attending is looking to be slim (2 for the fall) with overall numbers expected to be around 8 boys. His grandmother wrote the following:
Thank you for the info. I have filled out the forms and hope to take him on Wednesday. He has told me more than once that females “are not allowed”.
I am not familiar with the program. My sons attended Awanas for many years and I was a Spark leader for 7 yrs. The program was coed.
Any advice would be appreciated.
My initial thoughts are to have the child attend (and not the grandmother) and if he becomes too much to handle then speak to the grandmother and make any necessary changes.
Rex. Getting men involved can be a hurdle, but your described situation offers the optimal opportunity. This is a need to take to the men of the church. A perfect opportunity to give a man purpose. There is no greater call we can answer than to be the tool God uses to unlock a young person’s potential. We know the statistics on fatherless boys, and we know the difference a man can make in their life.
Pray about the men and for the men in your church (or other Christ-following men you might know), and pray that the Lord will begin to lay the names on your heart of particular men to approach with this need of a surrogate/spiritual father. A retired guy might be the answer. A younger guy without kids might be the answer. Who knows who God might have prepped just for this occasion.
Next, begin to approach these men personally. Share with them this great opportunity to speak into the life of a boy who needs a godly man speaking into his life. Share how the culture of Brigade gives a male friendly/comfortable natural atmosphere for this to take place. Share the call…
If the candidate is uncertain, give them a chance to come a see the program without committing to the boy. Then show them how they can speak into the boys life through a commitment to him and the program. Describe his role and how the team of leaders will help him accomplish it.